{"id":2253,"date":"2007-10-12T16:49:25","date_gmt":"2007-10-12T14:49:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/2007\/10\/reverse-reverse-psychology.htm"},"modified":"2007-10-12T16:49:25","modified_gmt":"2007-10-12T14:49:25","slug":"reverse-reverse-psychology","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/2007\/10\/reverse-reverse-psychology.htm","title":{"rendered":"Reverse reverse psychology"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/stephenfry.com\/blog\/\" target=_new>Stephen Fry erz\u00e4hlt<\/a>, wie er lernte, auf Komplimente h\u00f6flich zu reagieren:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>If anyone praised me in my early days as a comedy performer I would say, \u201cOh, nonsense. Shut up. No really, I was dreadful.\u201d I remember going through this red-faced shuffle in the presence of the mighty John Cleese who upbraided me the moment we were alone.<br \/>\n\u2018You genuinely think you\u2019re being polite and modest, don\u2019t you?\u2019<br \/>\n\u2018Well, you know \u2026\u2019<br \/>\n\u2018Don\u2019t you see that when someone hears their compliments contradicted they naturally assume that you must think them a fool? Suppose you went up to a pianist after a recital and told him how much you had enjoyed his performance and he replied, \u201crubbish, I was awful!\u201d You would go away thinking you were a poor judge of musicianship and that he thought you an idiot.\u2019<br \/>\n\u2018Yes, but I can\u2019t agree with someone if they praise me, that would sound so cocky. And anyway, suppose I do think I was awful?\u2019 (which most of the time performers do think of themselves, of course.)<br \/>\n\u2018It\u2019s so simple. You just say thank you. You just thank them. How hard is that?\u2019<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Und mir f\u00e4llt ein, wie mich vor vielen Jahren jemand zum selben Ergebnis brachte:<br \/>\nDie ausgesprochen herzliche Mutter eines Mitabiturienten hatte mir ein Kompliment gemacht \u2013 jetzt erinnere ich mich auch wieder, wof\u00fcr: f\u00fcr den selbstgestrickten Pulli, den ich trug. Ich wehrte sofort aber ehrlich ab: \u201eDoch nur aus Resten\u201c, \u201eganz schnell und schlampig hochgenadelt\u201c etc. Woraufhin die liebe Frau eine versonnene Bemerkung machte, wie bescheiden ich doch immer auf Lob reagierte. Das war mir sehr peinlich: Ich? Bescheiden? Von Stund an f\u00fcrchtete ich, durch die Abwehr von Komplimenten den v\u00f6llig falschen Eindruck von Bescheidenheit zu erwecken \u2013 und erzog mich aller Macht dazu, konsequent und jedes Mal auf Lob und Komplimente mit einem schlichten, freundlichen Dank zu reagieren.<\/p>\n<p>(Stephen Fry blogt!)<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Stephen Fry erz\u00e4hlt, wie er lernte, auf Komplimente h\u00f6flich zu reagieren: If anyone praised me in my early days as a comedy performer I would say, \u201cOh, nonsense. Shut up. No really, I was dreadful.\u201d I remember going through this red-faced shuffle in the presence of the mighty John Cleese who upbraided me the moment [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2253","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-general"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2253","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2253"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2253\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2253"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2253"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2253"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}