{"id":40832,"date":"2017-10-22T10:03:36","date_gmt":"2017-10-22T08:03:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/?p=40832"},"modified":"2017-10-22T10:03:36","modified_gmt":"2017-10-22T08:03:36","slug":"journal-samstag-21-oktober-2017-backverlernaengste","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/2017\/10\/journal-samstag-21-oktober-2017-backverlernaengste.htm","title":{"rendered":"Journal Samstag, 21. Oktober 2017 – Backverlern\u00e4ngste"},"content":{"rendered":"

Oy! Habe ich etwas das Kuchenbacken verlernt?<\/p>\n

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Samstagmorgen machte ich mich an einen Nusszopf<\/a> mit Haseln\u00fcssen aus Elterns Garten – und das landete in der Kastenform. Nicht wirklich zopfig. Gebacken 35 Minuten, bis er sch\u00f6n braun war – doch dann stellte er sich beim Aufschneiden als innen roh heraus. Oy.<\/p>\n

Am sp\u00e4ten Vormittag radelte ich zum Olympiabad. Es war zwar bedeckt, aber immer noch deutlich w\u00e4rmer als im Oktober \u00fcblich.<\/p>\n

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So sieht dieser architektonische Meilenstein im Moment aus, Eingang immer noch rechts sehr versteckt – und Besichtigungen nicht m\u00f6glich, ich bekam einige Entt\u00e4uschung von Touristen mit. Diesmal wusste ich zumindest schon, wie ich in die Umkleiden, in die Dusche (bereits renoviert und sehr schick) und ins Becken kam. Genussvolle Schwimmrunde: Keine M\u00fche, keine Schmerzen, wenig Betrieb, nur kleiner \u00c4rger \u00fcber die Seitenstr\u00f6mung, allerdings trotz Magnesiumeinnahme immer ganz kurz vor Wadenkrampf.<\/p>\n

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Erinnerung an den Anlass des Baus: Die Olympischen Spiele 1972 und ihr bis heute durchgehendes Designkonzept.<\/p>\n

Unterwegs Eink\u00e4ufe auch schon f\u00fcr eine Einladung bei uns daheim n\u00e4chste Woche, gem\u00fctliches Heimradeln nach Hause.<\/p>\n

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So setze ich mein Pok\u00e9monGo Plus ein: Wenn’s leuchtet, drehe ich den Arm im \u00c4rmel und klicke. W\u00e4hrend der gerade angebrochenen Halloween-Aktion gibt es besonders Interessantes zu fangen.<\/p>\n

Abends Verabredung mit einer Freundin im Pacific Times (da hinten kommt sie).<\/p>\n

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19 Uhr war vielleicht doch arg fr\u00fch?<\/p>\n

\u00a7<\/p>\n

Nicht neu und nicht anl\u00e4sslich der Weinstein-Vorw\u00fcrfe oder der #metoo-Aktion geschrieben, dennoch gerade jetzt wichtig.
\n“The Thing All Women Do That You Don\u2019t Know About”.<\/a><\/p>\n

Gretchen Kelly macht sich Gedanken, warum so viele M\u00e4nner (und manche Frauen) die Hinweise auf die Last von Alltagssexismus nicht ernst nehmen, f\u00fcr irrelevant erkl\u00e4ren. Ihre Idee: Vielleicht wissen diese Menschen einfach nicht, wie weitreichend die Konsequenzen f\u00fcr die meisten Frauen sind. Weil sie nicht dar\u00fcber sprechen.<\/p>\n

Maybe they don\u2019t know that at the tender age of 13 we had to brush off adult men staring at our breasts. Maybe they don\u2019t know that men our dad\u2019s age actually came on to us while we were working the cash register. They probably don\u2019t know that the guy in English class who asked us out sent angry messages just because we turned him down. They may not be aware that our supervisor regularly pats us on the ass. And they surely don\u2019t know that most of the time we smile, with gritted teeth. That we look away or pretend not to notice. They likely have no idea how often these things happen. That these things have become routine. So expected that we hardly notice it anymore.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

(…)<\/p>\n

We de-escalate. We minimize it. Both internally and externally, we minimize it. We have to. To not shrug it off would put us in confrontation mode more often than most of us feel like dealing with.<\/p>\n

We learn at a young age how to do this. We didn\u2019t put a name or label to it. We didn\u2019t even consider that other girls were doing the same thing. But we were teaching ourselves, mastering the art of de-escalation. Learning by way of observation and quick risk assessment what our reactions should and shouldn\u2019t be.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

(…)<\/p>\n

It\u2019s the reality of being a woman in our world.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s laughing off sexism because we felt we had no other option.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s feeling sick to your stomach that we had to \u201cplay along\u201d to get along.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s feeling shame and regret the we didn\u2019t call that guy out, the one who seemed intimidating but in hindsight was probably harmless. Probably.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s taking our phone out, finger poised over the \u201cCall\u201d button when we\u2019re walking alone at night.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s positioning our keys between our fingers in case we need a weapon when walking to our car.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s lying and saying we have a boyfriend just so a guy would take \u201cNo\u201d for an answer.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Das mag alles f\u00fcr sich genommen “nicht so schlimm” sein, doch ich halte es f\u00fcr inakzeptabel, dass es unterm Strich jeden Aspekt des Alltags formt. Was viele m\u00f6glicherweise gar nicht wissen.<\/p>\n

It occurred to me that they don\u2019t know the scope of it and they don\u2019t always understand that this is our reality. So, yeah, when I get fired up about a comment someone makes about a girl\u2019s tight dress, they don\u2019t always get it. When I get worked up over the every day sexism I\u2019m seeing and witnessing and watching… when I\u2019m hearing of the things my daughter and her friends are experiencing… they don\u2019t realize it\u2019s the tiny tip of a much bigger iceberg.<\/p>\n

Maybe I\u2019m realizing that men can\u2019t be expected to understand how pervasive everyday sexism is if we don\u2019t start telling them and pointing to it when it happens. Maybe I\u2019m starting to realize that men have no idea that even walking into a store women have to be on guard. We have to be aware, subconsciously, of our surroundings and any perceived threats.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Und so gibt Kelly Tipps, die gleichzeitig die oft gereizt gestellte Frage beantworten, was ein Mann “denn eigentlich \u00fcberhaupt noch darf”:<\/p>\n

So, the next time a woman talks about being cat-called and how it makes her uncomfortable, don\u2019t dismiss her. Listen.<\/p>\n

The next time your wife complains about being called \u201cSweetheart\u201d at work, don\u2019t shrug in apathy. Listen.<\/p>\n

The next time you read about or hear a woman call out sexist language, don\u2019t belittle her for doing so. Listen.<\/p>\n

The next time your girlfriend tells you that the way a guy talked to her made her feel uncomfortable, don\u2019t shrug it off. Listen.<\/p>\n

Listen because your reality is not the same as hers.<\/p>\n

Listen because her concerns are valid and not exaggerated or inflated.<\/p>\n

Listen because the reality is that she or someone she knows personally has at some point been abused, assaulted, or raped. And she knows that it\u2019s always a danger of happening to her.<\/p>\n

Listen because even a simple comment from a strange man can send ripples of fear through her.<\/p>\n

Listen because she may be trying to make her experience not be the experience of her daughters.<\/p>\n

Listen because nothing bad can ever come from listening.<\/p>\n

Just. Listen.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Oy! Habe ich etwas das Kuchenbacken verlernt? Samstagmorgen machte ich mich an einen Nusszopf mit Haseln\u00fcssen aus Elterns Garten – und das landete in der Kastenform. Nicht wirklich zopfig. Gebacken 35 Minuten, bis er sch\u00f6n braun war – doch dann stellte er sich beim Aufschneiden als innen roh heraus. Oy. Am sp\u00e4ten Vormittag radelte ich […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,2,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-40832","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-essen","category-fotos","category-general"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40832","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=40832"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40832\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":40850,"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/40832\/revisions\/40850"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=40832"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=40832"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.vorspeisenplatte.de\/speisen\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=40832"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}